How to Plan Your Perfect Wedding Day

When couples start planning their wedding, we so often hear them say “well, what should I do?” or “what usually happens?” in response to questions.

So many couples feel that there is a particular way that a wedding should be structured and run which is based on past practices, traditions and the “done thing”.

However, this goes totally against what we believe.

For us at Iconic Weddings, we feel that your perfect wedding should be unique to you and should be structured to celebrate and emphasise who you are, what you love and the logistics you are operating with.

So where do you start?

Grab your partner, a pen and some paper and start by coming up with answers to the 4 questions below.

If you cannot come up with an agreed answer right now, don’t worry – you can play with that later.


1. When you think about your wedding day what do see?

(jot down ANYTHING from what you are wearing, what you are doing, what do you see, the time of day, etc)

2. What do you love and what is important to you?

3. How much money do you want to spend / have available to spend on your perfect wedding day?

4. How many people would you like there on the day?

(at this stage it just has to be a rough number. If this is too hard, consider an answer of ‘intimate, mid-sized or large guest list’)

Now that you have done this, you can start putting your answers into the following statements. This will begin to narrow your focus and give you more clarity on what your ideal day will look like.

-> Start creating your ideal wedding day by focusing on that ONE thing that you both must have on your day

– Want an exquisite dinner and drinks experience?

– Want a live band so that you can dance all night?

– Do you prefer a relaxed, casual setting?

-> Will this work with the guest list you are currently working with?

(consider not only the number of guests you would like but also the AGE of your guests)

-> Then think about where you would like this to happen

– Does the scenery make a difference to you

(water views, bush setting, city vibes?)

– Are you keen to get away / have a destination wedding?

– Any general areas / suburbs that you would like your wedding?

-> How much DIY do you want to do and what exactly is it that you want to do yourself? – Food?

– Drinks?

– Furniture?

– Styling?

With these answers in place, now start thinking about  HOW you can design your day.

For example, if you both want to treat your guests to an incredible food and drink experience but you have a smaller budget, can you make your guest list intimate and go to an amazing restaurant for a private dinner.

Could you do a luncheon or a mouth-watering afternoon tea?

Or with a medium guest list, can you hire a renowned chef to a space that permits external catering?

It is really important when you are doing this that  you are not constrained by what you think your wedding day SHOULD look like based on what everyone else is doing or has done.


Your day is about you as a couple, so let it be a true reflection of who you are and what you love.

And if it is all too hard, we are always happy to sit down with you to help design your perfect day. Once you have this in place, you may find that you are off and racing with your planning.

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Happy planning!

Beautiful images captured by Shoshana Kruger Photography.